I remember the first time I lost someone special - I had no idea how to handle the pain. I even had no idea how to grieve! It was that new of an experience.
Today with the Internet, there are many resources to help with the grieving process. And, this blog is one of many that will help you deal with the pain of losing a loved one.
The goal is to make the grief issues you are experiencing as painless as possible. I know that only time will make it less painful, but having coping tools in the meantime will ease the transition.